For Better Or For Worse…
These are familiar words in marriage vows. There is definitely some wisdom in including them as any of us who have been married for a long time can attest. Relationships bring challenge and within that we are tested. Life brings challenge and within that we are tested. People who are wise know how to use the challenges to ask important questions, such as:
“Hmmm…..what can I learn from this?”
“How is this an opportunity to grow?”
The sentiment behind these words help us in a crucial dream-building skill – the willingness to make a commitment.
If you’ve been following these blogs on dream building, you know we explored how the right dream will have a special spark to it! We’ve also looked at Mary Morrissey’s material on how to test a dream to see if it’s worthy of your time and life energy. Now that you’ve landed on a dream you wish to pursue, it’s time to make a conscious commitment that says “Here’s what I want to create and I am committing to it!” By definition from here on out it will have your focus and heartfelt attention. As my mentor Katie Hendricks would say, “Commitment gets you off the bleachers and into the game!” My dream and I are no longer dating; we’re taking it to the next level.
One of the ways people stop themselves from committing to a dream is they want to know exactly how it’s all going to play out. Being a planner, I’m especially guilty of this one! I was the one last year that kept pushing Peter on all the details of the Walk. “How will you know where to stay each night? How will you know where to speak? How are you going to raise enough money? How, how, how???” My anxiety about these details would ramp up until I remembered this important caveat:
The HOW comes after we commit!
I had forgotten this and still have to remind myself on a regular basis. While certainly there was planning we did to prepare for Peter to walk across the country, there was no way to anticipate all that we would need to know in order to successfully pull off this dream. We are invited to trust that the necessary resources will show up in order to get all the way to the finish line.
I love this well-known quote by W.H. Murray a mountaineer who led the Scottish Himalayan Expedition:
“Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative or creation, there is one elementary truth…that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves. too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in ones’s favor all manner of incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man would have believed would have come his way.
Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, grace, and power in it.”
Being committed is the action that leads to the magic, the grace and the power.